Dageeza,
With respect to your questions regarding upgrading CAS members in a load balanced array, you should be following these steps (note I wrote these for RTM to SP1, but same steps apply for rollups):
PREREQ: Do not upgrade any mailbox servers to SP1 before all CAS within the AD site are upgraded to SP1.
1. Drain stop X (RTM) where X is a number of CAS members such that you don't impact current CAS array load (e.g., if you have 6 CAS members in the LB array and designed the iimplementation such that you can survive 3 simultaneous CAS failures, then x=3 or less).
2. Take X servers out of LB pool after verifying all current connections have been terminated.
3 Upgrade x servers to SP1. Verify upgrade is successful.
4 Drain stop y (RTM) servers (where Y = total number of CAS members in LB array - X) and add X (SP1) servers back into the LB array.
5. Confirm all connections on Y (RTM) servers have been terminated and then remove Y (RTM) servers from LB array.
6. Upgrade y (RTM) servers to SP1. Verify upgrade is successful.
7. Add y (SP1) servers back to array.
Ross